Wheres your father ?

So i read forums, blogs, websites about ASD etc on a regular basis.. one thing ive noticed is theres very few if any fathers on these sites? now i umderstand we are men we dont have feelings its the womans job to do all the research and care coz we make the money and the money has to be made and we are the bread winners and................ BOLLOX !!!!!!!!!....who made them ? thats right..we did, our kids too... we have every right to be involved as anyone else... so what if the state says by law we have no rights....does that mean we listen to the state ? if so then this is a first ...ive seen genuine surprise from numerous people when i show up to meetings for my kids, they automaticly think im unemployed ha ha !!!! the thought that i took time off never crossed their minds....i try to make as many as i can especially the important ones for the simple fact that i wont know whats going on otherwise...ive been asked to leave rooms by doctors and take my kids with me....ive been told to give the phone to my kids mother coz she'd know more about the kids than i would....ive only ever heard one person say anything good...they told me i was probably the most involved father they had ever met..and while it was nice to hear i think i felt confused at the same time...doesnt ever father take an interest in their child???? i dont know and im not saying im perfect but dont expect to be a father when it suits you...part time parenting isnt really parenting at all.